How Resilient Are You?

 
 
Feeling a little like this lately? 
 
 
Take a look through the statements listed below; these are all good examples of things that are thought to help increase a person's resilience.  If you find yourself disagreeing with or answering "no" to more than a few of these statements, it might be a good indicator that it's time to take some action - make some changes in your life, or even talk to a counselor.  This list can serve as a terrific starting point for discussion with your counselor or therapist - just print it out, underline or circle your personal areas of concern, and bring it with you to your appointment. 
 
 
 
1. I eat at least one healthy, balanced meal a day.
 
2. I get 7 to 8 hours of sleep at least four nights a week.
 
3. I give and receive affection regularly.
 
4. I have at least one relative within 50 miles on whom I can rely.
 
5. I exercise to the point of perspiration at least twice a week.
 
6. I avoid tobacco use (cigarettes, pipe, cigars, snuff, chewing tobacco).
 
7. I consume fewer than five alcoholic drinks a week.
 
8. I am the appropriate weight for my height.
 
9. I have an income adequate to meet basic expenses.
 
10. I get strength from my religious or spiritual beliefs.
 
11. I regularly attend club or social activities.
 
12. I have a network of friends and acquaintances.
 
13. I have one or more friends to confide in about personal matters.
 
14. I am in good health (including eyesight, hearing, and teeth).
 
15. I am able to speak openly about my feelings when angry or worried.
 
16. I have regular conversations with the people I live with about domestic issues – for example, chores or money.
 
17. I do something just for fun at least once a week.
 
18. I am able to organize my time effectively.
 
19. I drink fewer than three cups of coffee (or other caffeine-rich drinks) a day.
 
20. I take some quiet time for myself during the day.
 
21. I have an optimistic outlook on life.
 
22. I am able to forgive old hurts, embarassments, and insults.
 

 
 *This is a reproduction of the Stress Resiliency Assessment, found here, Copyright © 2006 Stress Directions, Inc.