Intention for this meetingMeet some new friends with a similar passion/mission, and help to bring empathic skills and awareness to many more people to improve joy, harmony, creative expression and peace on our beloved but sometimes challenged planet.
Stephan interviews Craig
Why is it important for you to share empathy?
Share powerful experiences and insights about empathy (or anything) is such a natural and healthy process.
Like plants taking in water and air and then creating fruit. One of the fruits that I like to share like that is empathy processes, principles and experiences. It allows the fruits of my inquiries and challenges and learning to be given. The joy of seeing others benefit from such shares feels great.
What’s your definition of empathy?
I “become” the person emotionally/energetically. I resonate with them and their feelings and needs and challenges and wishes in first person.
Empathy simply described: putting yourself in somebody’s shoes.
I work with dreams a lot. When people are dreaming they sometimes dream of “being” another person, so much so that only when they awaken do they realize they are themselves (i.e. physically separate from that person).
What are painful feelings about being a trainer?
Not having a simple, brief way to get the main concept and approach across to people in a way that they become interested enough to commit time and focus and energy to it.
Sometimes people say, “I already know how to communicate” without recognizing that there are plenty of ways to improve their skills and therefore their joy, harmony with others, and their creative fulfillment in life.
What is the painful part of that?
It feels like a loss of a bright possible future for their joy, our connection, and ultimately world peace if I am not able to share it in a way that inspires or motivates that, since the hoped-for future doesn’t happen (at least not at that time).
Are you aware of obstacles?
Reminds me of a story,. I trained with Rosenberg. In one example, he shared that I offered a good example of “false empathy”. In other words, I said the accurate needs and feelings, but I didn’t really reach out to feel into the person and energetically connect with them.
I realized a significant part of fully offering empathy is an inner skill, that is not entirely obvious to describe with everyday language or to learn just from the way someone is modeling the skill in the way they are talking or acting.